By Sara Goff “Young love is a flame; very pretty, very hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. The love of the older and disciplined heart is as coals, deepburning, unquenchable.” ~ Henry Ward Beecher (from RQ Relationship Intelligence by Richard A. Panzer) In my late twenties, I found myself in a two-year […]
Loving Service — The Basic Principle of Magnanimous Marriage
September 6, 2018 2 Comments
By Krsnanandini Devi Dasi, CFLE A few years ago, my husband, Tariq and I presented a seminar on the concept of what we term “Magnanimous Marriage.” In such a marriage, husband and wife are actual benefactors for one another. Benefactor is defined as a kindly helper, a person who benefits and supports another. “A happy […]
Thirty Years In: A Reflection on “Soul Mates”
April 10, 2018 10 Comments
By Jennifer Grant A friend posts a status update, tagging his wife, on Facebook: A wedding anniversary is the celebration of love, trust, partnership, tolerance, and tenacity. The order varies in any given year. Thanks for 20 YEARS of all the above, my dearest! I think long-married people are less likely […]
Thinking About Divorce Doesn’t Mean Couples Will Follow Through
August 23, 2017 2 Comments
By Alan J. Hawkins, Ph.D “Well . . . on a day-to-day basis, that does change because, you know, something might happen and it makes me feel like, okay, I can do this. . . .[T]hen there are days when, its just like, okay, this is just not going to work or we are right […]
The Next Fifty Years of Marriage
March 2, 2016 Leave a Comment
By Chris Gersten A few weeks ago my wife Linda and I were celebrating the 50th anniversary of our first meeting. I discussed some of the things I have learned about being a good husband. Now I want to look forward to our next fifty years together and explore ways we can continue to improve […]
In Training For My Grandchildren
December 22, 2015 2 Comments
By Jason Williams I’m 32-years-old. My kids are eight, seven, and five. I figure I’m at least 15 years away from having grandchildren, but I’m already preparing for them. About three years ago, someone wiser than me told me what someone wiser than he was told him: “Don’t think of your children as your children. […]
The Little Things
November 24, 2015 Leave a Comment
Written by Chris Gersten When my mother was eighty-five years old, long into her extended battle with Alzheimer’s, she shared some wonderful advice about what made her 52-year marriage to my dad so successful. On our ride from Denver through the Rockies, she told me that it was the “little things” that had made her […]
Before You Tie The Knot
July 28, 2015 Leave a Comment
By Michele-Weiner Davis Does knowing one’s fiancée’s values, goals and aspirations increase the odds a couple will live happily ever after?” That’s what reporters often want to know when interviewing me about the questions people should ask before tying the knot. As someone who for several decades has specialized in working with couples teetering on […]
Quad-Skinny-Double-Pump-Mocha-Chino — Marriage Advice — With Foam
March 30, 2015 Leave a Comment
By David Schel Like so many other mobile aficionados, I office out of a Starbucks location. It’s a great set-up. Nice working atmosphere, great music, and a full coffee bar. Best of all, free rent! I still get the full breadth of office chatter too. My landlord Howard actually stirred up some of the office […]
“Beta Marriage” Isn’t a Better Marriage
September 5, 2014 Leave a Comment
By Greg Griffin I’m intrigued by the recent article in Time Magazine suggesting that millennials try out a “beta marriage” model instead of marriage as we have understood it through the ages. Like many of us, millennials too see life as a series of multiple choice options, all within their control. Frankly, they also view […]
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