The devastation caused by divorce in America each year is real and pervasive. And the toll it takes on men, women and especially children has far ranging negative consequences in every realm — financial, physical and emotional. “Families are torn in two, children grow up without a stable home or with a missing mother or […]
Does Getting Divorced Mean We Lied On Our Wedding Day?
August 19, 2013 6 Comments
By David Schel As baseball season nears the home stretch, football is gearing up. Sports, like entertainment in general, provides needed distractions from life’s difficulties. It also mirrors what goes on in our relationships and, in particular, marriage. I say this as I’m going through my annual ritual of mustering up the energy to face another […]
Facilitating Forever
July 1, 2013 6 Comments
By Alan J. Hawkins, Ph.D Recently our attention has been riveted on the important debate about who can legally marry. Even with the recent Supreme Court rulings, the debate and legal struggles will continue for some time. As important as the debate over same-sex marriage is, however, I hope it won’t overwhelm an even more […]
Standing For Something
May 31, 2013 15 Comments
By Kenda-Ruth Stumpf In 2005, my husband left me for another woman and filed for divorce. Everyone kept telling me I was so lucky that at least we didn’t have kids. Though I agreed that divorce wouldn’t be good for children, being childless did not make me feel lucky. For me the possibility of divorce […]
The ABCs of Marriage and Relationship Education
February 28, 2013 5 Comments
Written by Seth Eisenberg Nearly 30 years ago Virginia Satir, called the “Mother of Family Therapy,” encouraged psychotherapists to shift focus from therapy to education as their primary strategy for helping repair relationships. Fifteen years later, Dr. Marty Sullivan of Duke University’s renowned Integrative Medicine Program began integrating relationship skills training into a holistic approach […]
Transforming Anger
November 30, 2012 2 Comments
Written by Naomi Grunditz How many marriages fall apart because the fighting just won’t stop? What’s worse, those who split up without learning how to deal with anger–their own and others’–will only face the same problems with any new partner down the road. And what will that accomplish, but another broken family? [1] Psychologist and therapist Dr. […]
Six Signs Your Marriage Is Headed For Trouble
November 13, 2012 2 Comments
Written by Michele Weiner-Davis I’ve been a marriage therapist for a very long time. It’s been my experience that people wait a very long time before getting help for their relationships. Research shows that most couples wait six years before seeking marriage counseling. Plus, most people never seek professional help; they head directly to a […]
Honoring The Institution
October 23, 2012 1 Comment
Written by Chris Gersten I have a friend, we’ll call him Marty, whose marriage has been struggling. Marty has been married for over 30 years. His children are grown, married, and out of the house. Marty also has run a successful business so he is not hurting financially. Marty’s wife, Ann, left him to live in Italy this […]
The More Than Good Enough Marriage
August 16, 2012 Leave a Comment
Written by Cathy Meyer Low-conflict marriages account for the lion’s share of divorces every year. And these divorces involve marriages that experts believe can be saved. “One minute, you love the stability and contentment. The next minute, you think it’s not the right marriage, and there are flaws in the marriage that are serious, even […]
Values: Easy To Have, Hard To Live By
July 18, 2012 4 Comments
Written by David Schel and Jennifer Graham J. Robertson McQuilkin was president of Columbia International University, a Bible college in South Carolina, when his wife Muriel was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease. Determined to keep his wife at home, where she was safe and loved, McQuilkin made the decision to care for her by himself, and […]
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