By Mike McManus Cohabiting couples believe they are testing their relationships. According to research, many cohabitating couples believe that if their relationship is not strong, they will break up short of marriage, with no harm done, and that cohabitation will enhance the quality of a future marriage. Sadly, both notions are incorrect. However a growing […]
Cohabitation: A Growing Problem
Save Your Marriage — Don’t Even THINK About Divorce!
By Suzanne Venker What’s your attitude toward marriage as an institution? Is it more traditional in nature, or does it match the culture’s more progressive, cavalier view? Your attitude is the single most important determiner of your success in life. Life will throw you a thousand curve balls. So will marriage. But it isn’t the curve balls […]
Something Continues To Be Missing From The Conversation….
By David Schel I was born in 1963, so I don’t remember where I was the day President Kennedy was assassinated. I vividly remember the morning of September 11th though, and having coffee with my wife on the West Coast. December 14, 2012 is another of those days I can’t forget. Sitting at my desk, […]
By Michele Weiner-Davis Not So Fast. Lately, there’s been a lot of talk about the fact that monogamy is an outdated, unrealistic and suffocating institution. “After all,” we’re told, “human beings simply aren’t wired to have only one sexual partner. It’s unnatural, unworkable, unrealistic.” Additionally, even though it’s natural to be attracted to other people, […]
Thinking of filing for divorce in January? Read this first.
By Greg Griffin I bet you’ve figured out already that this is not the warm fuzzy holiday blog post. There are lots of wonderful heart-warming stories and experiences shared this time of year. Cultures around the world celebrate, decorate, plan parties, buy gifts, and gather with family and friends. Media hypes the feel-good stories of […]
In Praise of the Tenacity of Marriage
By Jennifer Grant At the small, religious college I attended, some girls joked that they were there to earn a “Mrs.” degree. I steered clear of them; their preoccupation with finding husbands seemed not only ridiculous but also pathetic to me. And I had plans. After college, I’d go to grad school, write a novel, […]
Children Are Hurt by Marriage Failure
By Mike McManus We all know that half of America’s marriages fail – and have for decades. What’s less well known is that America’s marriage rate has plunged in half and unwed births soared 8-fold. Who is most wounded by divorce and non-marriage? Children – innocent victims of their parents’ selfishness. Only 46% of American […]
Your Marriage Belongs to Your Community of Family and Friends
By Nisa Muhammad To my dear recently wedded friend, I recently read an article on Ozy.com entitled “Divorced? Give Your Wedding Guests a Refund.” And I thought of you and your recent nuptials. After much thought, I wanted you to know that your marriage belongs not only to you and your spouse, but also your community of […]
My Affair Just Happened. . .
By Michele Weiner-Davis I’ve been a therapist for a very long time. I’ve encountered people from all walks of life with varied viewpoints, personalities, strengths and idiosyncratic quirks. I’m never bored, rarely shocked and almost never irritated. But the operative word here is “almost.” I have lost count of the number of times when a spouse who’s been […]
Is Marriage Obsolete? No! It’s More Needed Than Ever
By Mike McManus Marriage is declining in America. There were only 2,077,000 marriages in 2015 – fewer than the 2,159,000 in 1970 when the population was only 203 million. If the same percentage were getting married today, there would have been 1.3 million more marriages last year! Sadly, a large minority of the population – […]