By Suzanne Venker What’s your attitude toward marriage as an institution? Is it more traditional in nature, or does it match the culture’s more progressive, cavalier view? Your attitude is the single most important determiner of your success in life. Life will throw you a thousand curve balls. So will marriage. But it isn’t the curve balls […]
Screw Monogamy?
January 17, 2017 1 Comment
By Michele Weiner-Davis Not So Fast. Lately, there’s been a lot of talk about the fact that monogamy is an outdated, unrealistic and suffocating institution. “After all,” we’re told, “human beings simply aren’t wired to have only one sexual partner. It’s unnatural, unworkable, unrealistic.” Additionally, even though it’s natural to be attracted to other people, […]
In Praise of the Tenacity of Marriage
October 3, 2016 Leave a Comment
By Jennifer Grant At the small, religious college I attended, some girls joked that they were there to earn a “Mrs.” degree. I steered clear of them; their preoccupation with finding husbands seemed not only ridiculous but also pathetic to me. And I had plans. After college, I’d go to grad school, write a novel, […]
My Affair Just Happened. . .
July 14, 2016 1 Comment
By Michele Weiner-Davis I’ve been a therapist for a very long time. I’ve encountered people from all walks of life with varied viewpoints, personalities, strengths and idiosyncratic quirks. I’m never bored, rarely shocked and almost never irritated. But the operative word here is “almost.” I have lost count of the number of times when a spouse who’s been […]
She Was My First . . .
June 2, 2016 Leave a Comment
By Jason Williams My wife Amanda was determined to save herself for her husband, to give him something special that no other man had ever received. I was her first, but she was not mine. That fact has been a source of hurt during our marriage. For her, it’s the reality of knowing that physical […]
Being A World Class Grandparent
May 2, 2016 Leave a Comment
By Chris Gersten I have been a grandparent for nineteen years and am blessed to have nine grandchildren ranging in age from 19 to 4. Being a good grandparent is a lot easier than being a good parent. It takes much less work and time and resources. So I have crafted a set of suggestions […]
The Next Fifty Years of Marriage
March 2, 2016 Leave a Comment
By Chris Gersten A few weeks ago my wife Linda and I were celebrating the 50th anniversary of our first meeting. I discussed some of the things I have learned about being a good husband. Now I want to look forward to our next fifty years together and explore ways we can continue to improve […]
In Training For My Grandchildren
December 22, 2015 2 Comments
By Jason Williams I’m 32-years-old. My kids are eight, seven, and five. I figure I’m at least 15 years away from having grandchildren, but I’m already preparing for them. About three years ago, someone wiser than me told me what someone wiser than he was told him: “Don’t think of your children as your children. […]
How To Fix No-Fault Divorce
December 11, 2015 11 Comments
By Mike McManus In the old days, if a spouse wanted a divorce, there had to be proof that a partner was guilty of a major fault – adultery, abandonment, or physical abuse. Marriage was considered a sacred contract agreed to by the man and woman before God and witnesses. Then in 1969 California Gov. […]
The Little Things
November 24, 2015 Leave a Comment
Written by Chris Gersten When my mother was eighty-five years old, long into her extended battle with Alzheimer’s, she shared some wonderful advice about what made her 52-year marriage to my dad so successful. On our ride from Denver through the Rockies, she told me that it was the “little things” that had made her […]
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